In case you’ve missed it, part 1 of ㅂ.
Okay, it’s been forever since I’ve done this, but here we go! Hang on as I try to get my groove back in breaking down food/drink words.
When 복 is pronounced, it rhymes with “oak”. Remember that as a final consonant (badchim), the ㄱ has more of a “k” sound. So doesn’t sound like “boag” but a rather “bok”.
분 = boon. But we commonly spell it as “bun”. But in Korean, we don’t pronounce “bun” as we would a hamburger “bun”. I can imagine people commonly pronouncing “bokbunja” as “bawk – bun (like a hamburger bun) – ja”. LMAO.
자 =ja. This one is pretty easy, right?
That wraps it up for Bokbunja. If you are only here for the tutorial and don’t care to read further about my personal life rambles, stop reading here, as I am now going to delve into ramblings about my personal life (and how and why this post became about Bokbunja).
If you have been following along in my Korean alphabet series, you might remember that we had left off on the letter“m”, many moons ago. As I mentioned in the last post, the hiatus had a bit to do with my own personal crap.
I actually had all the letters of the Korean alphabet posts planned out. I already had pictures for most of the posts. Then the sudden breakup with SS happened. The food we had together at restaurants, the dishes I made for us to enjoy and to incorporate into posts, the discussions we had about what dishes we should use for each letter were what SS had been a big part of. Continuing with the posts, using the pictures of the dishes we shared, ideas shared of what to write about were going to be bitter reminders of what were to become fading memories.
Around early spring or so, SS and I had both agreed that “bibimbap” would be the best option for my “b” post, as it is one of the most popular Korean dishes that everyone is familiar with. I had photos all ready to go at the time.
And when the breakup happened, I missed a couple of posts, got sidetracked, and felt a bit lost and uninspired. I always knew I was going to come back to this series. I had a lot of fun delving into this when I first started and knew that it wouldn’t be something I’d just abandon for good. But I felt that a break was also needed, maybe to come back with fresher ideas and a clearer head.
But now, the bibimbap post idea and SS have been replaced with Bokbunja and Catboy.
A reader expressed some curiosity about how I had been progressing with my love life since my breakup, earlier this year. That made me wonder if others might wonder where the eff Catboy suddenly popped up from, too. Eight or nine months flew by since I parted ways with SS. Since my breakup post, I didn’t really talk much about that part of my personal life. And then bam, one day, Catboy appears in my blog posts out of nowhere, as you may have noted. Well, let me share with you some of the in-betweens of the transitional phase from parting with SS to dating Catboy.
The transition from breaking up with SS to now dating Catboy was no walk in the park. Naturally, I went through the typical withdrawal symptoms shortly after. It took some painful time to completely detach. What was even more painful was in knowing that I’d eventually have to face the dating scene again. I like being in a relationship, but I hate dating. I don’t know what could be more painful and dreadful than dating. But obviously, there is no way around it.
When wounds were still fresh, it was hard for me to fathom even being interested in someone else again, which is a natural feeling to have right after a breakup.
It wasn’t like we broke up and the next day I completely erased SS from my heart. It took time and thorough FBI screening for feelings and attachment to develop. Detaching myself completely also took some time. They say that it takes half the time of the time you were with someone to get over them. I’ve always found that to apply to me, personally.
SO’s from the past seemed to have started with unintentional encounters, just being at the right place at the right time while I wasn’t even looking for anybody. But those encounters struck several years between each other. And in the past, when one relationship ended, there were times when I’d go years without any desire to meet anyone and was content with the single life. A big part probably had to do with the fact that pouring bleach in my eyes was more appealing than the thought of having to go out on first dates with complete strangers.
I didn’t acknowledge it at the time, but now I am realizing that the breakup was sort of what was needed to realize what more I want/need in a relationship. My last relationship was mostly a happy one…until life’s tribulations took over. Maybe I won’t have what I had with SS with anyone again. And maybe I don’t want to. I can only aim for better than the last, right?
I met Catboy around August. I named him Catboy because he loves cats and kind of reminds me of one. His cat’s name is Yippee. Go follow her on Instagram!
If you’ve met me, you would probably think that I was a cat person, too. But no, I am totally a dog person. Love dogs. Hate cats.
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